“Telling someone your goal makes it less likely to happen.” – Derek Sivers
Be Quiet & Start Now
“Think of your biggest personal goal,” Derek
directed. “You've got to feel this to learn it.”
Then Derek suggested using imagination. “Tell someone what you’re going to do. How does it make you feel? Imagine their congratulations.”
“Doesn't it feel
good to say it out loud?” He asked. “Don't you feel one step closer already, like it's already becoming part of your identity?”
Then, Derek burst the happy feeling.
“Well, bad news: you should have kept your
mouth shut, because that good feeling now will make you less likely to do it.” Derek declared.
It’s not uncommon to have days where you wonder how to keep going. It’s easy to feel like your challenges are too great. But, success is built on three things: resilience, consistency, and an unshakable belief in curated purpose.
Let’s start with the understanding that building personal resilience isn’t about avoiding the setbacks you will inevitably face. It’s about bouncing back stronger. So, how do you do that?
First, learn from your
failures by treating every setback as a learning opportunity. Ask yourself, what can I do differently next time?
Second, stay adaptable in our constantly changing world. Flexibility is your greatest asset to cultivate this trait. And, while becoming adaptable you’ll need to practice lots of self-compassion. That means becoming good at forgiving yourself
for mistakes and moving on.
Being able to move forward means focusing on consistency, the next key to gratifying success. What you do every day defines your long-term outcomes. So, build routines to help yourself. Here are some suggestions.
Start your day with gratitude: Spend five minutes reflecting on what you’re thankful for. Then, set and rank objectives to complete during the day. Toward day’s end, reflect on what went well and what you can improve before preparing your schedule and intentions for tomorrow. But, this isn’t the end.
Finish by
unplugging and recharging: That means turning off notifications and prioritize rest so you can be ready to keep going. You’ll also want to remember that finding gratification isn’t a sprint. It requires constant attention to some attributes you may not currently have. The good news here is that you can develop needed characteristics over time.
Cultivate
positivity. Positivity isn’t about ignoring challenges, it’s about approaching them with a solution-oriented mindset. A positive outlook attracts friends, builds stronger relationships, helps you weather tough times, and encourages a learning mind.
Develop a growth mindset. Having a growth mindset can really blunt the impact of hard times. A
person with a growth mindset believes that skills and success are developed through effort and learning. This means constantly seeking opportunities to improve.
“Think of your biggest personal goal,” Derek said. “You've got to feel this to learn it.”
The impact of quietly creating gratifying success is built on simple things. Be quiet and start now.
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